Archive | January, 2012

Sympathy Messages: A Sample of What You Should Say

20 Jan

Attempting to find Messages to Write in a Sympathy Card?  What does a condolence card need to have? A sympathy card is a simple card which can be specially made or purchased in a card store or book store. It expresses the sender’s feelings of sorrow or grief over the passing of a person who she knew specially or an acquaintance.

Messages to write in a sympathy card may range from a lone wish to allow the person to conciliate and recover from the misfortune or messages that articulate your heartfelt gratefulness towards the dead and your wishes of helping the surviving family in any way you can. Here is a template for messages to compose in a sympathy message card if you need a sample:

Dear/Dearest (name of the recipient),                                                   (Date)

My family and I were very sad to hear that (name of the deceased) has passed. I wish to convey our sincere sorrow on his/her passing and we will be including him/her in our prayers.

He/she was a friendly person, was soft spoken and hardly ever lost his/her temper. He/she has left tender memories in our hearts. I distinctly remember when he was (memories, but make them short). He/she will always remain one of the highest (neighbors/community leaders, teacher, etc) that we will have.

If you  ever need our help, do not hesitate to ask. You and your entire family will be in our prayers tonight.

Sincerely yours,

(your family name)

You may fill in distinct important moments you and the deceased had when he was living or mention an entertaining thing that he said but of course make this as casually as you can without making a lot of fuss. There are also some fabulous things to include like viable ways you can help out. Here are some essential things you can include:

.Offer your home number, commonly when you live next door or up the street. You may say on your sympathy card that they can call anytime for help or it may be just an ear to listen to without prying.

.Give to help with the kids for a while. Include in your sympathy messages card that you can offer this service for free particularly when your kids play with theirs.

.Include that they can always drop by if they need help. Should they go on a vacation or a leave after the funeral, they can always count on you to look after the house.

.As a member of the community, you can also offer to give a short speech about the deceased. Refer to that you have known him for years (or how many years actually) and have been a big follower of his works. Do not fail to refer to of course that you are seeking their permission to give a short speech and never give an impromptu.

.As a close friend of the deceased, remember in your message that you and he share a deep friendship and would like to share this with his family. Offer to make the ceremony or the wake special by making a scrap book or a commemorative site online if you know how.

.If you know about making funeral arrangements and organizing events, you can offer to take care of the services free of charge. You may either mention this on your card, but if you do, it may look like you are trying to strike a business deal.  It may be better to mention this personally to the family when you meet them.

.Messages to write in a sympathy card can be improved if you are able to give a small gift like a bouquet of flowers, a small memorial for the surviving spouse or how about a mass card if the family is Catholic. You can also incorporate a mass schedule that will be said in honor of the deceased you sponsored; church details, time and the name of the officiating minister would also need to be enclosed.


Messages of Sympathy

17 Jan

Sometimes messages of sympathy for cards are more suitable to tell family or relatives of the dead how you feel. General greetings can be a comfort instead of making your own particularly when you don’t personally know the family. Messages of sympathy for cards can range from many types of feelings like sadness, alienation, thankfulness, soothing the family member and even giving consoling words of deliverance or life after death if the family is god-fearing.

Messages of sympathy for cards are by and large poetic in nature. Oftentimes these are made to inspire the recipient to move on and make the most of the deceased memory as a reason so start making a needed change. We owe so much to greeting card companies like Hallmark for making us all warm and fuzzy during distinguished times of the year and in moments when we feel heavyhearted and lonely due to a death of someone we love.  Messages of sympathy for cards are not just on hand in your newsstands or bookstores but are also on hand on the internet.

Online messages of sympathy for cards are clever and prompt ways to send message of sympathy to the family of the dead without missing out on the necessary things to say. Online greetings are getting to be more understood since you also get to make adjustments on the card design, colours, fonts and even small but creative details like background music and special effects. Here are some internet messages of sympathy for cards that you may use:

.”Those we love don’t go away; they walk near us every day. Their memories remain in our hearts. May loving memories heal your pain.”

.”Memories of an adored one never fade away; my prayers are always with you.”

.”We are very sorry to hear about your loss. We pray that you find comfort in the memories he left behind.”

.”Death of a loved one gives us heart aches that may never heal. Honor the memories that he leaves which no one can steal. With fondest sympathies.”

.”Sorry to hear about your loss. Let his memory make you find healing comfort and love.”

.”My deepest sympathies over your loss.”

.”May God be with you during this difficult time.”

.”Life leaves imprints of people that we love and cherish, may you find love and peace on the memories that he left behind.”

.”My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this sad moment.”

.”We will always be here for you and your family.”

.”Special memories keep the people we love close to our hearts till the end of time.”

With special messages of sympathy for cards like these, you may never need to add a personal message. Some people find sending your regards from a card is dispassionate and would rather you send a special letter or a written message to the family of the departed.

Although messages of condolence for cards may look and sound pre-made, it is best to add a few personal touches to make this the ideal sympathy message. Try sending these cards in unison with a wreath or a bouquet of flowers, a basket of fresh fruits or how about a box of sweets or chocolates. Making unpassioned messages of sympathy for cards more proper may be done by also writing your personal message on the side of the card or together with a photo that you kept of the deceased.

Messages of sympathy for cards are perfect when you really don’t know what to say. Sometimes we are loss for words due to a sudden death of a loved one that a card may do for the meantime. You can follow up the universal message by saying you will attend the wake or the funeral also mention that you are offering your help in any way you can for the family.